Whether you’re having a minor disagreement or a substantial argument, our brain’s logical left side gets overwhelmed as the emotional right side screams THREAT! and  floods us with anxious stress chemicals and primal fight or flight directives.   In a blink, you may feel separated and disconnected and see your partner as an adversary on a totally different team.  If your instinct is to ‘turn and attack when aroused’ interrupt the cycle and allow a cool-down period. Reschedule another time to work on the problem, then get up and quietly leave with a promise to relax, re-center and return.