Learn the Language of Secure Attachment.

Memorize these sentences and use them frequently!     “Here I am.”  “We’re a team.”    “We can work this out.”   “I’m IN!  I’m not going anywhere.”   “I’m here for you.”  “What do you need?”  “I’ll do my best to try to hear you and give you what you want.”     “ I value you.”  “You are important to me.”  “What you think and feel matters to me.”   “For me, there is no one but you.” “ I’m on your side.”  “I’ll stand by you.”    “WE can and will work it out.”  “I love you.”