A vast majority of our desire for love and sex occurs in the brain. What you tell yourself greatly impacts your level of desire. It’s time to change the mantra from “I’m too tired” into “I’m ready to be restored and renewed.” Even if you are spent and exhausted, touch each other for 5 minutes. Put your hands on each other, press yourself against your partner’s body, as if he/she were a battery that you could charge yourself up with. Your five senses, smell, sight, sound, taste, and touch are all vehicles to take you into deeper intimacy. Use them.
Marriage & Family Therapist, Author and Straight from the Heart TV host