Keep your conversation constructive vs. destructive.

Avoid blaming and the infamous button pushers…”You always”, “you never”, or “you should.”

Try to really hear your partner’s point of view. Don’t nod and pretend you’re listening, just waiting to jump in and make your argument.

Agree to disagree.  You don’t have to change anybody’s mind.  Just listen and recognize that there is a difference.

Hold onto the BIG PICTURE.  Remember that you love your partner and that whatever the issue of contention, this too shall pass.