Give attention to the small-stuff problems as they arise because they usually need small-stuff solutions: a loving gesture, an acknowledgement, a brief discussion, an easy compromise, an apology. The small stuff has a way of mounting up and becoming BIG when unaddressed. Don’t WAIT until it turns into a larger than life drama. Check IN…
Have an agreement in place that promises when issues arise, disagreements occur, you agree to not yell, scream or berate each other. Promise that no matter what you will be ‘NICE’ and RESPECTFUL.
Disagreements can be helpful because they force us to stretch our perspective and leave our comfort zone. It’s easy to embrace each other when things are good, disagreements teach us about real love and acceptance in spite of our differences.
Every relationship obstacle you encounter has two ultimate outcomes: It can emphasize a feeling of separateness OR it can strengthen your sense of connection. Whatever the issue or impasse, this is an opportunity to keep choosing love over isolation and to lean IN vs. push AWAY. Even if it feels counter-intuitive…LEAN IN!
Disagreements can be helpful because they force us to stretch our perspective and leave our comfort zone. It’s easy to embrace each other when things are good, disagreements teach us about real love and acceptance in spite of our differences.
Our ‘Buttons’ are issue-oriented sensitivity triggers that form in our earlier developmental stages. When pushed, our earlier wiring takes over and we may find ourselves reacting and behaving in ways that are heart breaking vs. heart waking. Your sensitivity, reactivity and level of frustration show you where your work is! Think of this as a…
Whether you’re having a minor disagreement or a substantial argument, our brain’s logical left side gets overwhelmed as the emotional right side screams THREAT! and floods us with anxious stress chemicals and primal fight or flight directives. In a blink, you may feel separated and disconnected and see your partner as an adversary on a…
