Know how to recognize and answer the “Deadly Questions” when they arise.

You know the ones I’m talking about.  The low self esteem generated ‘Am I enough?’ inquiries.    The ONLY ‘get out of jail’ answer is to meet and greet these questions with a loving, supportive, affirming response.  For example: Am I fat?  “You look beautiful to me.”     Am I sexy?  “ALWAYS, TOTALLY!”    Am I balding?  “I…

Choose to be a Listener rather than a Judge or an Advisor.

Listening well is the secret to having a really great conversation and effectively working through issues that arise. Here are 3 quick tips. Give your partner your undivided, quality attention. Maintain eye contact. Lean in. Keep your body and ears uncrossed and open. Stop yourself from interrupting.   Really listen vs. preparing your defense or response,…