The best way to encourage your partner to open up and share is to be open to LISTEN and HEAR nondefensively what he or she has to say. Ask your partner what he or she needs. Encourage sharing by saying: “Tell me more.” Give feedback about what you heard them say.
Let’s face it; everybody needs to hear and know that they are loved. Find a way to show your love to your partner every day. You don’t have to wait until ‘the day is done’ to awaken your ‘lover’ energy. You can ‘make love’ all day long.
“Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it” – Rumi What kind of self-imposed conditions do you place on yourself or others BEFORE you allow your love to flow freely? Our hearts are happiest when we relax the rules and just…
The more emotionally generous you are, the more love you feel. Accentuating the positive and acknowledging what is good in each other and in the relationship, has positive effects for both of you. When you let your partner know that you recognize his efforts, say thank you and express your gratitude, you help your partner…
For example, celebrate your 100th or 1000th day together since the baby was born. Celebrate your firsts…such as the first day you first made love, or the day you started living together, or the day you first said, “I love you.” The sky’s the limit. Celebrate your love and LOVING each other regularly.
Talking to each other is one the main tools we use to connect with each other. It’s how we extend ourselves and let our partner know who we are, what we need and how we feel. It’s important for the partnership to create an open passageway where each person can safely express themselves without fear…
Make small gestures, and make them often. The thoughtful little things we do for each other are like little dabs of superglue that bonds our partnership and fortifies our attachment.
Hold hands, take 3 deep breaths and smile into each other’s eyes. Take a moment to feel your whole body as it is. Profound moments can happen when you look deeply into each other’s eyes.
It is believed that about 93% of all communication is non verbal. On an emotional level, nonverbal communication answers the questions: “Are you listening?” and “Do you understand and care?” Are you safe? Do you really love me? Answers to these questions are expressed in the way we talk, listen, look, move and react.
In fact BODY LANGUAGE is just as important as spoken language when it comes to love relationships. Your partner’s words may say it’s OK, it’s settled, but their posture, bearing and expression may indicate disapproval or resentment. We not only need to say what we mean, we need to BE what we mean too.