Spending quality time together is an essential ingredient to staying turned on and tuned into each other. Before rushing out the door in a frenzy, get up one hour earlier with your partner and have breakfast in bed, read an inspirational passage aloud, hold each other and whisper sweet nothings into each other’s ears, go…
I am often asked, what is effective communication? It’s very simple. What you say to your partner is actually heard by your partner. Your message sent is the message received. Few experiences are more gratifying than expressing yourself, saying something that is deep and personal and having it heard and received by your partner. This…
We each have our own special way that we feel loved. You may feel most loved when you’re held and told how much you are loved. For your partner, it may be through appreciation and gratitude. It’s important to KNOW your partner’s love language and speak to them in their language.
Let love emanate for you—not in reaction to anything. BE the love you want to receive.
The more you love, accept, and invite ME as I am, the more I will open and reveal my true self.
The anger, the criticism, the demands, we express are really cries to our lovers, calls to stir their hearts, to draw our mates back in. We are trying to reestablish a sense of safe connection. Unfortunately, fear breeds more fear. If you want love and closeness, BE the love you seek.
Memorize these sentences and use them frequently! “Here I am.” “We’re a team.” “We can work this out.” “I’m IN! I’m not going anywhere.” “I’m here for you.” “What do you need?” “I’ll do my best to try to hear you and give you what you want.” “ I value you.” “You are important to…
Disagreements can be helpful because they force us to stretch our perspective and leave our comfort zone. It’s easy to embrace each other when things are good, disagreements teach us about real love and acceptance in spite of our differences.
What we focus on, grows.
“I don’t feel loved.” “I don’t feel connected.” “I don’t feel safe with you.” The longer we feel disconnected from each other, the more negative our interactions become. Underneath most distress calls are protests over our feeling emotionally disconnected from each other. The sooner you can address the true nature of your partner’s heart’s call,…
