Learn the Language of Secure Attachment.

Memorize these sentences and use them frequently!     “Here I am.”  “We’re a team.”    “We can work this out.”   “I’m IN!  I’m not going anywhere.”   “I’m here for you.”  “What do you need?”  “I’ll do my best to try to hear you and give you what you want.”     “ I value you.”  “You are important to…

Most fights and distress in relationships can be boiled down to a few core issues.

“I don’t feel loved.”  “I don’t feel connected.”   “I don’t feel safe with you.”  The longer we feel disconnected from each other, the more negative our interactions become.   Underneath most distress calls are protests over our feeling emotionally disconnected from each other.  The sooner you can address the true nature of your partner’s heart’s call,…