Give attention to the small-stuff problems as they arise because they usually need small-stuff solutions: a loving gesture, an acknowledgement, a brief discussion, an easy compromise, an apology. The small stuff has a way of mounting up and becoming BIG when unaddressed. Don’t WAIT until it turns into a larger than life drama. Check IN…
The facts and feelings you choose to withhold from your partner paves the road towards disconnection; the feelings and facts you are willing to share, bring you closer. The next time you want to hold back from sharing, ask yourself, “Am I moving toward or away from deeper intimacy right now?”
The best way to encourage your partner to open up and share is to be open to LISTEN and HEAR nondefensively what he or she has to say. Ask your partner what he or she needs. Encourage sharing by saying: “Tell me more.” Give feedback about what you heard them say.
The more emotionally generous you are, the more love you feel. Accentuating the positive and acknowledging what is good in each other and in the relationship, has positive effects for both of you. When you let your partner know that you recognize his efforts, say thank you and express your gratitude, you help your partner…
Talking to each other is one the main tools we use to connect with each other. It’s how we extend ourselves and let our partner know who we are, what we need and how we feel. It’s important for the partnership to create an open passageway where each person can safely express themselves without fear…
Hold hands, take 3 deep breaths and smile into each other’s eyes. Take a moment to feel your whole body as it is. Profound moments can happen when you look deeply into each other’s eyes.
It is believed that about 93% of all communication is non verbal. On an emotional level, nonverbal communication answers the questions: “Are you listening?” and “Do you understand and care?” Are you safe? Do you really love me? Answers to these questions are expressed in the way we talk, listen, look, move and react.
In fact BODY LANGUAGE is just as important as spoken language when it comes to love relationships. Your partner’s words may say it’s OK, it’s settled, but their posture, bearing and expression may indicate disapproval or resentment. We not only need to say what we mean, we need to BE what we mean too.
I am often asked, what is effective communication? It’s very simple. What you say to your partner is actually heard by your partner. Your message sent is the message received. Few experiences are more gratifying than expressing yourself, saying something that is deep and personal and having it heard and received by your partner. This…
We each have our own special way that we feel loved. You may feel most loved when you’re held and told how much you are loved. For your partner, it may be through appreciation and gratitude. It’s important to KNOW your partner’s love language and speak to them in their language.
