In today’s technology-driven world, it’s shockingly easy to slide down the slippery slope from an innocent “friendship” to a full-blown affair. Gratification can be immediate and accessibility is instant. Through the Internet and cell phones, affairs can start and blossom in the very place you hold sacred—your own home. One flirtatious comment, an overly solicitous remark, an intimate confession, and you or your partner may be swept up in a tide of addictive emotions that can blur the boundaries between platonic and sexual. The brain chemicals released from merely exchanging online flirtations can be as addictive as drugs, and can very quickly lead to an affair.
Is your relationship vulnerable?
- Is something “off” between the two of you?
- Are the two of you spending less time together, either due to children, work, or simply growing apart?
- Do you long for more emotional and/or sexual attention from your partner at home?
- When you’re with your partner, do you feel bored, detached, bitter, or just plain lonely? Do they?
- Is there a big question mark in your mind and heart about your current relationship?
- Are you or your partner suddenly wanting to seek stimulation elsewhere, to shake things up, get the excitement pumping, and feel more alive?
- Do you or your partner spend hours on the Internet, networking in chat rooms, socializing on Facebook, tweeting, texting, or emailing friends?
Emotional sex is an affair of the heart that feels just like romantic love. It may not even be a physical or sexual affair yet, but it may lead to that very soon.
If this is indeed the case, you need to learn exactly HOW to get to the truth of what’s really going on, fast.
Awareness is the first step to preventing INFIDELITY.
You’ll need to know the right way to confront your partner (if you discover that your partner is involved with someone else) or to confess (if you’re the one cheating) without destroying the relationship.
Infidelity doesn’t need to lead to a divorce or a breakup, if you know the steps to take.
In my book, Chatting or Cheating, you’ll discover what you need to do to detect whether infidelity is taking place, how to confront or confess, and what to do in the aftermath of emotional or physical intimacy with another so you can begin the healing process. Whether you want to affair-proof your relationship, end your cheating, or have the tools to help rebuild trust and love after a betrayal, Chatting or Cheating will help you every step of the way.
You can recover and thrive after an affair!
Chatting or Cheating is Step-by-Step, Complete Guide to Detecting an Affair, Confronting Your Partner, and Restoring and Rebuilding Love and Trust After Infidelity
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Learn about the slippery slope of EMOTIONAL SEX
Chatting or Cheating
It used to be that affairs only happened at work, out of town, or otherwise outside the home.
But with the advent of cell phones, the Internet and social networking, it’s easier than ever to connect with anyone, anytime, right in the comfort of your living room.
The brain chemicals released from mere flirtations can be as addictive as drugs.
If you suspect your partner is cheating, you’ll learn:
The 3 triggers that can open the door to your partner being seduced into highly addictive emotional sex. Learn how to identify and combat these vulnerabilities in your relationship, so you can affair-proof your relationship now and in the future.
How to gather the proper evidence and recognize the often subtle clues that your partner is cheating, so you can confront him/her in the right way and get to the truth as quickly as possible.
What to do if your partner denies, distracts, or derails any confrontation about his/her affair and end the lies and secrecy.
If you are dealing with the aftermath of an affair, you’ll learn:
- Effective strategies that will help you deal with the grief, tension, regret, resentment, anger, and depression that result from infidelity.
- How to end obsessing and stop unwanted thoughts.
- How to follow a step-by-step guide to rebuilding and repairing the love, trust, and commitment to your primary relationship, no matter how terrible you feel now.
If you are the one cheating or caught up in emotional sex, you’ll learn:
- The best way to confess to an affair without breaking your partner’s heart.
- How to break the addiction and stop obsessing about the person with whom you had the affair—specific, proven tips and strategies for moving on, forgiving yourself, and embarking on reconciliation with your primary partner.
- How to regain the trust so you can both feel better and rebuild your love.
Fact: cheating doesn’t have to lead to divorce.
You really CAN save your relationship and make it even more affectionate, more passionate, and more connected than before.
Emotional sex or physical infidelity doesn’t need to lead to a breakup or divorce. When handled the right way, the aftermath of cheating can actually strengthen your primary relationship and bring you closer than ever before. In Chatting or Cheating, you’ll learn how to repair your relationship, revitalize your romance, and safely love again.
You’ll be given the tools to build a more love-secure future together including:
- 4 tips for skillful communication, so that you both feel understood, heard, and loved while opening up your heart and risking honesty.
- Specific strategies for rebuilding the honesty, regaining trust, and forgiving your partner so that you can move on and start over with a clean emotional slate.
- Practical solutions for overcoming power struggles and the need to “be right.”
- How to regain the romance, re-ignite the passion, and reduce all probabilities that another affair can ever happen again, and much more…
America’s leading love and intimacy expert, Sheri Meyers, Psy.D, author of
“Chatting or Cheating” is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA. She is among the national media’s most frequently quoted and interviewed relationship, infidelity and life transition experts. A regular contributor on broadcast network news including ABC, NBC, CBS, CNN, cable TV, radio talk shows, and the Huffington Post, Dr. Sheri’s compassionate, practical, straight talk and easy-to-apply methods have inspired and helped thousands of men and women face and overcome their most complex and daunting life, relationship, and sexual challenges.
In “Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love, and Affair-Proof Your Relationship,” Dr. Sheri now shares with you her exclusive and unique insights and effective strategies that come from over 30 years of helping couples successfully recover, heal, and safely love again.
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What America's Leading Experts are Saying About 'Chatting or Cheating'
Dr. Sheri Meyers has written a profound and powerful book that is a must-read for anyone wanting to protect your relationship, heal it if it’s on shaky ground, or recover from the heartbreak of infidelity. With deep insight, clarity and compassion, she offers you an essential map through the murky maze of the most painful issues a couple can face. “Chatting or Cheating?” will be the answer to many prayers.
“Chatting or Cheating?” is an informative, practical guide for dealing with infidelity There are wonderful sections on instructing the cheater how to confess and to end an affair–also on how “the betrayed” can recover. This book is filled with useful, straightforward instructions to heal a wounded heart.
‘Chatting or Cheating?’ is a lifeline, giving hope and effective strategies that can help couples recover and rebuild a healthier, happier, more deeply intimate relationship after an affair. I highly recommend reading this book.
Read this book BEFORE you have an affair. Read this book if you’ve ever fantasized about having an affair. And if you’ve had an affair, or suspect your partner, read this book to prepare yourself for a journey into intimacy. Thanks to the expertise of Dr. Meyers and her straight-arrow and heartfelt advice, this gem may just save your relationship before trouble even ensues
“These valuable insights should be given out to every couple because they teach us the subtle early clues and the 21st century ways that our brains and emotional chemistry can cause pain and distance between people who promised to love and trust each other. What I found most helpful in this easy-to-utilize book is that the author truly understands the confusing feelings and important steps for knowing when you’ve started to cross over into a danger zone and how to repair the relationship in a smart, loving way. This book will save many people from painful break-ups and help many couples strengthen their love and closeness.”
Dr. Sheri Meyers book, CHATTING or CHEATING? From Infidelity Discovery to Relationship Recovery is a highly contemporary look at relationship dynamics that have deep implications to marriages and committed relationships. From Facebook to DINKs (dual income no kids), from meeting an ‘ex’ to soccer moms and dads, the challenges and opportunities for roaming have increased as have the pressures of our society, our economy, and our diminished sense of connection to an extended family or sense of community. Those pressures and feelings of isolation are the fodder for drifting from friendly chatting with a co-worker, Facebook friend, or other online buddy to what Sheri calls ‘Emotional Sex’ and a form of cheating even when there’s no physical contact.
If a reader wonders if their relationship may be headed toward or has already run into a form of infidelity, Dr. Meyers has a number of checklists and ‘red flags’ to do quick diagnostics on themselves or their relationship. The book is sprinkled with brief vignettes drawn from the author’s counseling experience with countless couples whose relationship has hit the wall and have walked the path back to a more intimate and loving bond. She describes and three S’s (Secrecy, Sharing Intimacy, and Sexual Energy) that should be kept within the relationship and can signal a problem when one of them becomes part of a connection with another person.
On a practical level ‘Chatting or Cheating’ leads the reader through what to do if you suspect or find evidence of cheating; how to inquire, how to have that difficult conversations; and how to heal and repair a damaged relationship.
Written in a non-technical and very readable form, Chatting or Cheating is an essential for all therapists, and a must read for anyone who wonders about the health of their committed relationship.
This thought-provoking book vividly illustrates some of the slippery pitfalls that lead a person from seeming innocent flirting (over coffee or over cyberspace) to actions that damage families, loved ones, self-esteem, and the course of one’s life. I highly recommend this book to every adult, because what you don’t know about that slippery slope can happen to any relationship.
Written in a non-technical and very readable form, Chatting or Cheating is an essential for all therapists, and a must read for anyone who wonders about the health of their committed relationship. I’m very impressed with the tremendous contribution your book will make to our profession and to couples everywhere.
‘Chatting or Cheating?‘ is a must read for anyone whose relationship has been impacted by infidelity. It is an invaluable hands-on guide through the landmine of discovering and responding to your partner’s affair. As a divorce lawyer and mediator, I regularly deal with the trauma and loss of broken marriages that result because one partner started out chatting and ended up cheating. DON’T LET THAT HAPPEN TO YOU. If there’s a chance you are in those circumstances, ‘Chatting or Cheating?’ is the light that can lead you and your mate out of the darkness and into the possibility of reconciliation and healing. I recommend it highly. Dennis A. Cohen, Esq. Family Law Mediator http://www.SettlementWorks.com